Are Women Are Also Guilty Of Objectifying Men, Warping Male Body Image?

Women are as guilty as men of creating societal pressures regarding body image and how people should look. Recently, a friend of mine posted an image of a male model who had rescued a dog and began an instagram account for the dog with images of the K9 with he and his model roommates. My friend's caption was "Eye Candy." Of course, we all laugh when women write this. But secretly, such images and captions are crushing to many many men out there. 

Why? Because most of do not have bodies like these hunks. Our abs are far from the washboard stomachs they have worked endless hours to chisel. Nor do with have lines of definition right above our crotch which would inspire us to wear our pants without underwear and have them hang low around the waist. If I were to do that, while I don't have a massive belly, would not have the same effect, I imagine, call me crazy. 

It is ironic that the very women who complain about how objectified women are in our society will post photos like this one as eye candy for the female imagination. This is amidst the chorus of calls for celebrating all women's bodies! It is rare that I see female friends of mine dig up a photo of an average guy's body and post it as 'hot'. Nor do I personally have a need for them to do so, but, the fact remains these images are powerful. They inform boys about what they are supposed to look and help create a perception of what women want. 

Size Matters

I will go one step further to illuminate the deeper element of this issue: PENIS SIZE. 

Ask any man in our society, and he has most likely wondered 'how his member compares' to other guys. Is he big enough? Will she be satisfied? And numerous other questions plague many boys and men. And if you think these are only generated by commentary by other men, you are absolutely mistaken. Just listen to how women talk about well-hung guys. There is a curiosity, a sense of awe, etc. Of course, this is not every woman, and many friends of mine say that isn't part of their thinking when it comes to the guys they like. 

But have you ever heard women talk about dating a guy with a very small penis? It's a brutal conversation to overhear. 

So I challenge women to not perpetuate the societal push for men to look a certain way as much as they themselves want to be celebrated for how they look. The things you say and the photos you post about what a beautiful man look like are an enormous part of how boys shape their ideas about themselves and their bodies. And they are listening. 

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-Alok Appadurai is co-founder of Fed By Threads, a writer, proud father, vegetarian, advocate of the earth and animals, and curious about life. 




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4 Responses

HTR
HTR

June 12, 2015

I know I’m a little late to this party, but some personal research lead me to your post. While I understand and agree with what you wrote to a point I submit there is a real difference between women and men – a pretty signifigant one. While women may objectify men in pictures to a certain degree, most women realize that those men aren’t the norm and don’t walk around expecting all men to look like a super model. Women will date the guy that doesn’t have the perfect physique or the model face – they date the guy whose a little short, a little bald and even the one with the belly. Women are far more likely to date the man that treats them well, that is a good decent human being. On the other hand, that short bald fat dude is still walking around demanding to date the girl that looks like she stepped out of Playboy and he doesn’t care if she’s a gold digger with an IQ of 50 that treats him like dirt. Obviously, there are exceptions to this on either side – but when it comes to ranking physical attributes above all else – men win hands down. There’s nothing wrong with a little fantasy life – it’s knowing the difference betwen it an reality that makes a difference.

milla
milla

November 05, 2014

Well said! I keep getting more and more intrigued by this company. I have young son myself and have always felt the same way. Another point as well is height, you hear it all the time on TV, how tall men are more successful in life and romance.

Deborah
Deborah

October 21, 2014

Your article starts with a sweeping statement that stereotypes all women and all men. If you really want a thoughtful discussion on these matters, you might refrain from making these generalizations.

Alaina
Alaina

October 21, 2014

BRAVO!!!! I totally, completely, whole-heartedly AGREE!!!!
Men are just as vulnerable to the self-doubt as women are – 100%.
Personally, and this isn’t to “knock” the men viewed as “eye candy” – I prefer a man that’s a little softer in build.
While I appreciate the beauty of man that takes care of himself – I’m also drawn to the guy that’s not afraid to have a couple beers and a cheese quesadilla, not worrying about the calories.
Thank you so much for TALKING about this. Well said. Well put.

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