The Fashion and Media Industries exert a lot of effort to control and shape both what colors you will work on you and often prey on you feeling crappy about yourself. The other day, I received an email from a long-time Fed By Threads supporter that rocked my world about the impact our philosophy about color had on her sister, whom she had brought to our store from out of town for the first time.
During the course of their fun try-on session where we were having a field day dressing her sister, she conveyed the all-too-common view that some color just doesn't "work" on her. And as per our philosophy, I went on to explain to her that we believe all colors work on all skin-tones, not because I wanted to sell her that garment, but because we stand by the belief that many people live in self-imposed prisons about what colors they can or can not wear, often based on the opinions espoused in media, magazines, or by parents and friends who judge and control how someone may or may not feel good in.
For us, as we have said many times, there are only colors you like and colors you don't.
But in nonchalantly communicating our color-philosophy, I had no idea what was really happening! My friend relayed that her sister has battled eating disorders for years and has been so hard on her body because of it. Yet in that one comment, that one philosophy of the many we hold to be true at Fed By Threads, she said that her sister cracked the door open to changing how she feels about herself, to allow maybe the possibility of breaking some of the self-imposed views she has so rigidly judged herself negatively by. To say, for a moment, that maybe "I can wear any color and that there are no bad colors on me," can be a revolution of the heart and potentially fertilize seeds of self-love in someone who may have gone a very long time since saying such things!
I don't claim that this one occurrence may actually heal the underlying causes of her eating disorders, but I also don't rule out that if she does find the path to self-love, she may look back and consider our store's truths about colors being for anyone as a building block along her path to recovery and future blooming.
In the end, we want people to love themselves for who they are at Fed By Threads and our views about color are no exception. So the next time someone says, "I just can't wear that color well" tell them they can wear any color they enjoy looking at! And maybe if you find yourself falling into trap of telling someone they don't look good in such and such a color, catch yourself, think twice, and remember that you may be feeding into their highly-critical self-judgments or even their eating disorders. Instead ask them what colors give them pleasure.
Colors are wonderful elements of our self-expression! Let them bring joy to the wearer and beyond.
Photo from: http://www.aliexpress.com/popular/model-legging.html
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